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Andromeda Romano-Lax's avatar

I meant to comment when I first read this. Loved the post. ALSO: that beautiful tree is a dogwood!

I'll be writing a post soon about envy (good envy), which pairs well with your stories of spite and revenge! (Maybe spite is the best of the three.)

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Thank you for reading it!! I loved listening to you and Erin talk about envy! I need to read "Shutter Island!" Looking forward to your post!!

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Brooke Berman's avatar

This is so great, Liz. I can identify with a lot of it. Having put Ramona at Midlife into the world (we launched on streaming in Feb), I’ve been looking for the stamina to do the same with my next two film projects, really just looking for the energy to put them each together and ensure they get made. I will 100% consider spite! Or at the very least, revenge. You should 100% come to my event in the East Village on 6/9, Writing Midlife, at the Book Club Bar. If you like it, we can do one in Jersey just for you! (I’m actually talking to some people about an event in Princeton….) Xo.

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Hi Brooke! Thank you so much for reading this! I LOVED Ramona at Midlife and listening to your A Certain Age podcast episode. This looks like such a great event! I'd love to attend if I can!(And on in NJ sounds fun too!) Looking forward to your next film projects! xo

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kim windyka's avatar

i am absolutely motivated by spite (and jealousy), so you're not alone! whatever gets the job done, i say. :)

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Exactly! Glad to hear I'm not alone! I'm looking forward to reading all about your latest trip! It looked amazing!

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Julie Vick's avatar

I feel like I'm having a blah writing day, so I was happy to read this and realize maybe I can just use revenge to motivate me forward, (just as soon as I settle on what it is I actually want to focus on!)

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Ha! I know, it seems hard to focus these days. I keep telling myself by summer I'll have it all figured out (yeah, right!). I hope the revenge is as motivating for you as it is for me! 🤣

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Jennifer Haubrich's avatar

I really enjoyed this. I like your energy and I think that might be a magnolia tree? Also, I love the Princeton public library. I’m going to try writing out of spite. Will see if it helps! Haha

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Thank you for reading and for your kind words! I love that library too! Yes, see if spite helps and please keep me posted! 🤣

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Jennifer Haubrich's avatar

What if this was the missing ingredient all along? Life changing! 😆

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Your writing is amazing so I don't think anything has been missing!

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Jennifer Haubrich's avatar

Well, you never know. But thanks!

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Jessica Payne's avatar

First of all, yes. I use spite as motivation sometimes. And I had a similarly awful experience at a new local bookstore. 🙃 I’m also waiting for them to call and beg me to come back and do an event lol…

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Liz Alterman's avatar

I’m so sorry you had a similar experience! I’m manifesting that call for you!! 💕

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Natalie's avatar

You always have me laughing when I read your newsletters 😂 Your inner voice is similar to mine lol. I bought The House on Cold Creek Lane for my daughter, and she just bought You Shouldn’t Have Done That on Kindle 🥰

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Ha! I love that we have so much in common! Thank you again for all your support! That makes my day! I hope your daughter enjoys them! Have a wonderful Sunday! 🥰

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Eva Lesko Natiello's avatar

Similar to spite, I find rejection motivating. It fueled my "I'll show them!" mantra which has stewarded more than one story. Sometimes, though, the thought that the best is yet to come is what makes me at least attempt the next thing. I hope you keep at it in spite of everything otherwise!

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Yes! I try to think of rejection as redirection! On to a better home! Love the "I'll show them!" attitude!

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Vera Jerinic-Brodeur's avatar

I’ve also fantasized about my own spite stores😂. Glad I’m not the only one!

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Ha! It's fun to imagine! 🤣

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Gwen Florio's avatar

Love this! Here's my favorite 'rejection revenge story: https://herondance.org/maclean-rejection

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Oh this is fantastic, Gwen, thank you for sharing it! I'm bookmarking it for inspiration so I can stay strong when that bookshop comes calling 🤣

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Lindsey Goldstein's avatar

Love this! And sad as it was, I laughed at your possible internal reaction to your high school english teacher. I had a doozy as well! Wrote the most creative take on where I’d be in 5 years and she gave me a B and said I didn’t follow directions.

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Thanks for reading, Lindsey, and I'm sorry you can relate! Didn't follow directions on a piece based on your imaginings 🤪 Hopefully, she was just having a bad day and didn't spend her career attempting to stifle students' creativity!

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Lindsey Goldstein's avatar

Right?? She also reeked of coffee and cigarettes. Or maybe just had a rotten soul. Eek! It’s a wonder I wanted to become a writer. 😂

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Liz Alterman's avatar

I’m so glad she didn’t ruin writing for you! Maybe you’ll have to bump off a fictional version of her in a future story! 😂

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Andrew Knott's avatar

Love this! Reminds me of the don't say revenge bit from The Simpsons when Homer is trying to join the Bigger Brother program because he's mad at Bart. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ldxkR-DVgzA

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Ha! I love that! I think I need to revisit The Simpsons this summer!

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Elizabeth Jannuzzi's avatar

OMG, I'm ALWAYS saying "Spite is a powerful motivator!" Lots of my accomplishments are fueled by spite!

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Liz Alterman's avatar

I'm glad I'm in good company!

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lisa kusel's avatar

It is always always always a treat to read your words, Liz. Good luck with all those events!

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Liz Alterman's avatar

Thank you for reading, my friend! Looking forward to our event in Oct! It'll be here before we know it!

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